Girl in a relationship

Originally taken from REMINISCENCE

...this entry specially for any (girl) going through a relationship confusion at the moment. You've got to be strong and you need to take care of your own heart..

If a guy wants you, nothing can keep him away.
If he doesnt want you, nothing can make him stay.

Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.. sometimes, you've got to let your intuition save you from heartache. And please dont try to change yourself for a relationship thats not meant to be..

Im not being mean.. but I personally believe that you should never live your life for a guy before you find what makes you truly happy. If a relationship ends because the guy was not treating you the way you deserve to be treated, dont kid yourself by continuing to be friends..

A friend wouldnt and shouldnt mistreat a friend.

If you feel like something's not right or that he might possibly be cheating on you, then he probably is. Dont be so gullible as to hold on thinking "it will get better". You'll only be mad at yourself a year later for holding on to nothing and just getting hurt all these while..

The only person you can control in a relationship is you. 

Always have your own set of friends separate from his. Guys ALWAYS stand up for our own so you can never fully trust any one of his friends. Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you, and if something bothers you.. for goodness sake, speak up!

Never let a guy know everything though. If he's a bastard, he'll use it against you later. You cannot change a guy's behavior. You have to understand that to us guys, it really is an ego thing and thats what makes us jerks most of the time. Change comes from within.

Girls, dont ever make him feel more important than you are. You shouldnt feel belittled even if he is smarter, wealthier, more popular. And please have some personal pride, seriously.. dont allow him to put a leash on you (neither should you be so possessive). Your guy is still a guy after all, nothing more and nothing less. A guy will treat you the way you allow him to.. never let him define who you are.

If everything eventually ends.. you need time to heal between relationships. There is nothing cute about baggage.. it makes you look like a desperate slut. Scared of being alone is what makes a lot of girls stay in relationships that are abusive or hurtful. Deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship, and make sure you really ARE over it before you start dating again..

And when the next special someone comes along, be sure you never look at him to complete you. A relationship consists of two whole individuals, so look for someone complimentary.. not supplementary.

You're the best thing that could ever happen to anyone and if a guy mistreats you, that brainless idiot simply doesnt know what he's missing out on. If he was attracted to you in the first place, know that he's not the only one.. just dont be a bitch and go around flirting if you're already attached..

If you find a guy, or if you're already with a guy.. who brings out the best in you, who brings joy into your life, who stands by you through everything and makes you feel special and loved.. then I guess you'll be/are one happy girl. 

But when and if you ever start to question yourself about the direction of the relationship when nothing else is wrong, just remember the very first day you fell in love with him. Hold that memory, and fall in love with that special guy of yours again and again..

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By the way, 

I'd like to reemphasize again that I am NOT a male chauvinist.

I really have great respect for girls (well some anyway).

Some might had questions in their mind why on earth did I took down this post? Well, I think it encouraged me to see things differently from a guy's thinking and I hope my friends will be touched but by this Point of View from a well known blogger in Singapore (2K viewers daily).